Professional Fatherhood: The Duty, Battle, and Joy
Professional Fatherhood: The Duty, Battle, and Joy - By Bob Moses
One of my favorite parables is the story of three men to whom a different amount of talents were given. One man was given five talents, another man two talents, and the third man one talent. The man who received five talents courageously and wisely invested them. He doubled the amount of talents with which he was entrusted. He grew his gift! Well done!
There’s good news and there’s bad news.
The good news is that all children are like the man who was given the five talents; all children are amazing. We parents are the stewards of those talents. It is our duty, our job, our responsibility to courageously and wisely develop our children’s talents.
But the bad news is that the clock is ticking. We only have a few precious years to invest and grow our children’s talents. With a positive sense of urgency, I often ask myself the question coined by Alan Lakein, the time management guru: “What is the best use of my time right now?” For me, the best use of my time and talents is to help my children be their best. And when is the only time to do that? Right now. Today is the day; now is the only time, and we are their parents. We will never, ever get this opportunity again! Let’s get to work!
Being a professional father isn’t always as wonderful as an ice-cold beer on Father’s Day. Vince Lombardi said, “I firmly believe that any man’s finest hour, the greatest fulfillment of all that he holds dear, is that moment when he has worked his heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle – victorious.” Now, there are those rare days when I feel like I’m lying on that field of battle. But I am thankful for these days because they are part of my personal growth as a parent.
And most days are not a battle. Most days are awesome and bring forth those treasured moments that truly make my job the best one in the world. I remember the exact moments when I realized both of my children were reading (both at age two). I was there the moment they each did their first pull-up, when they played their first “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star” on the piano and violin, when they cheered with enthusiasm about acting in their first Shakespeare plays, when they triumphed across the finish line after their first triathlons – and the thousands of other priceless moments that I, a professional father, had the opportunity to develop and witness!
Perhaps the best part of all is that because I have been there with them, I know my kids well. Really well. And they know me, too. Being a professional father is a joy and I love it!